Stimming is not confined to one group of people – everyone is likely to have these habits and unique tendencies, even if you have not thought about what they are.
Stimming is not confined to one group of people – everyone is likely to have these habits and unique tendencies, even if you have not thought about what they are.
It could be discreet, like biting your nails or fiddling with your hair. It could be tapping your fingers, rocking back and forth, or other mannerisms and movements. These things are unique, and you can often learn to recognize the stims of your friends and others simply by spending time with them. Some stims are more common, while others can be seen as annoying or unacceptable. These frowned-upon stims could include knuckle cracking, repetition, and biting yourself.
Stim is a shorter term used to refer to self-stimulation. Those with autism ordinarily speak about this. Stimming is often a physical movement or sound that somebody repeats repeatedly. It could also be specific words, moving objects, or other things.
The DSM 5, or Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, talks about stimming as a part of autism. It describes this as ‘stereotyped or repetitive motor movements, use of objects, or speech’. The DSM 5 also discusses that these symptoms will cause difficulty for the autistic person, impacting their ability in social, occupational, or other areas of functioning. While anyone can have stims, when it comes to autistic people, the difference is that stimming will get in the way of everyday activities and cause the person to have difficulty learning. When you reach this point, the stim is a symptom of autism.
For many parents, the first thing you will likely ask when you find that your child has stims is how you can stop them. However, it is essential to move away from this mindset and focus on other questions to help your child best.
Even if you try to eradicate self-stimulating behavior, you will likely find no way to get rid of it completely. Further, even if you manage to stop your child from doing one stim, it will just be replaced by another, and there is no way of knowing if the new one will be better or worse than the one you are trying to stop. Finally, forcing your child or loved one to stop stimming is terrible since it can force them away from you. Trying to eradicate their stim can result in them withdrawing, and you may lose your connection.
Rather than immediately trying to force the stimming to stop, you should instead try to understand why the behavior started in the first place. To begin with, you should try to determine the origin or cause of the stim. To do this, you could consider some of the more common causes, including:
While you shouldn’t simply force your child or loved one to stop stimming, there are some reasons why it is helpful to try to reduce the amount that it happens. Firstly, stims can get in the way of learning and education, which hurts the person’s development. Stimming can also be a problem when it comes to interpersonal relationships as well as social situations. Aside from causing trouble with learning and interacting with others, stimming can also be physically dangerous as some lead to those with the stim hurting themselves and can even lead to severe injuries, including infections, and may result in needing to see a doctor or even get surgery to help with the healing process.
Now that you understand some of the most frequent causes of stimming, you can go through this checklist to try to combat whichever cause you think is relevant to your situation. If you cannot establish the cause, try running through these solutions to eradicate as many potential causes of stimming as possible to help prevent it.
As a parent, you may see stimming as a negative aspect of autism; however, it is important to accept that it will always be a part of your child’s life. Instead of trying to eradicate it, you should embrace it and allow your child to feel accepted and comfortable in who they are. Following the previous steps is the best way to ensure your child is not feeling any unnecessary discomfort. Still, beyond this, the best option is to understand the root of your child’s stimming behavior and help them to understand that it is normal.
Feeling comfortable can help to reduce stemming, and nurturing your child in this positive way can also help you to build a much stronger relationship and base of communication with your child, which will be a great help throughout their life. If a stim is particularly dangerous or harmful, make sure to go to a doctor, but for general stims, allowing your child to be themselves is the most important thing.